Thursday, October 20, 2011

because this one should come first ... even if I am a month late

A little over a month ago, on September 17th, we celebrated LB's 12th birthday, but I failed to blog about it, so I am doing it today, on D's 6th birthday, before I write about him sometime this week (I hope!!!).

So, we've entered new territory with this girl of ours.  In less than one year eleven months, there will be a teen-ager living in our house!  But, I am trying not to spend too much time dwelling on such a disturbing thought and I am also not sold on what seems to be the general concensus that if you have a teen, you have to put up with, ahem, shall we say, difficult behavior until those terrible years have passed.  I am just not sure that being rude, disrespectful and generally disrupting the rest of the family has to come with the territory.

Anyway, off my soapbox and back to my girl.

It has been a big year.  LB is growing into a young woman in every way.  She is learning to cook and help out around the house.  Most importantly, she is growing in her sensitivity to others.  This is important, but it does also make some things harder.

I am proud of the young woman she is becoming, but I probably don't tell her that often enough.  I do love the fact that she still loves to play dolls and I think she would still play dress-up if any of her old dress-up clothes still fit :o).   She hasn't started asking to wear make up yet and she had the guts (or just didn't know better than) to tell some friends last month that her Mama doesn't want her dressing hot to attract boys.  One of the girls then told her that she didn't understand because she is home schooled ... well, maybe that is true, but it certainly isn't a bad thing!  This little incident opened the door for a good discussion about her future and the things that her Daddy and I think are important for her to know.

Many times in the last year, my Mama and I have talked about how our little girl has disappeared and been replaced by this preteen girl who is still struggling to figure out who she is and where she is going.  It would be a lie for me to say that I don't miss the bubbly motor-mouth of days gone by, but I know that this transformation is necessary.  The older she gets, the more I realize the need for me to pray harder and more for her as she navigates waters that seem much muddier for her generation than they were for mine.  Still, there can be no doubt that God has a plan for her life and even though I sometimes feel a sadness for the little girl, I can't wait to see where He will lead her.

Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ.  Philippians 1:6

Complimentary Caramel Pie ... after supper at O'Charley's
The set of Julie books Grandmother and Papa gave LB

Her gently used Nikki and Sprocket (American Girl) doll that her Daddy
and I bought from a family member for LB

JW chose a set of American Girl paper flowers for LB
(are you seeing the theme here?)

D actually went a little different and gave her a set of stamps ... which she
used today to make his birthday card!


Greg and Donna said...

I've banned the word teenager from our house. Instead, we have young adults. Being a "teenager" and all that goes with it has only been around for the last 50-60 years. Until then, kids were leaving childhood and entering adulthood without the garbage in between. And being homeschooled does mean its easier to keep a lid on the stresses of dressing like the world and acting like the other youngsters. I love having daughters that aren't "of the world".

Felicity said...

When my kids were little I thought of the teen years with apprehension - now I wonder what I was afraid of!
I have 3 wonderful young adults in my home, who are loving, respectful, helpful and thoroughly entertaining. My 3rd child has an amazing sense of humour and keeps us laughing for hours. I agree that 'negative' behaviour doesn't have to come with the territory.
And as for 'not understanding because you're homeschooled' well, good - there are some things I don't want my children to 'understand'...
Congrats on your daughter's birthday - she's a beautiful girl who looks a lot like her mom!

Donna said...

Hi, Jennifer,

I so enjoyed reading your post this morning and seeing your beautiful pictures! What a nice celebration for your daughter! I am sure she enjoyed all the American Girl items!

I am getting close to the teen years with my oldest daughter...and reading your thoughts...well, I have to agree with you 100%! Girls don't need to dress to attract boys!!!

Blessings~and keep on talking on your soapbox! :)